Does that feel important if others praise you, and if it does, then how much? Here we are, doing something, creating, presenting to the world, and in return, we get a silence – intentional or unintentional indifference. Would that upset you?
In case of a positive answer, you are an emotionally unstable person whose level of happiness directly depends on the others’ opinion about you. Means that projections of your expectations, entrusted to others, control your own mood. Simply put, you did something, hoped to get one reaction, and eventually got completely different one. In both cases, neither one nor the other met the given parameters, therefore, led to the collapse of the system.
My thesis supervisor liked to repeat one line from the poem of Alexander Pushkin: “…Indifferent alike to praise or blame…” Certainly, at heart, most of us agree with Alexander Sergeyevich but do not follow this statement. And how, if the first thing that a person desires after having the work done is to get a feedback about it, mainly admiration and praise. This motivates to new discoveries, creativity and, in general, gives a power for the movement forward. All social networks, from Facebook to LinkedIn, work on this principle. All the likes and comments increase our sense of self-worth, nurture the ego. It is not bad because after all, we are social beings, we need self-affirmation and recognition in society. The condition here is the only one: the opinion of others is as important as you consider it so. And vice versa, its insignificance is as real as it is real for you. In the meantime, we all continue to share our photos in social networks with considerable enthusiasm, collect likes and quench a thirst for public recognition.