Yesterday, on International Women’s Day, I was thinking about how you, men, are important in our life, how important is the one with whom we build the relationships and how do we choose this person.
What do we really want from men? Love, stability, care, understanding, help and support, protection, fun, adventure? Yes, we want all of this and even more, but from a man with whom we are in love, to whom we feel that sparkle. Otherwise all for nothing.
Let’s consider an example: there is a girl, she lives her life until one day she’s
imposed inspired by the idea of a marriage. She wants to meet a man with a certain set of qualities: healthy, intelligent, wealthy, caring, etc., and most importantly, he is looking for serious relationships too. Days of expectations pass, meetings, seeking, and, finally, he appears in her life, ready to create a family. It would seem that everything is great, the ideal man is found and you can proceed to the next stage. But something is missing. This can be called differently: love, sparkle, the feeling that comes from our soul. Not a rational choice, dictated by society rules and social status, not an emotional short burst or a long dependence, but a deep feeling coming from the heart, a perfect “yes” that can not be justified by reasonable arguments, or, perhaps can, but all of them would be inadequate and irrelevant answers to the question “why?”.
It turns out that mind and convenience are not yet the most important things in the process of selection. They are certainly significant, but where there is no spark, any arguments will be useless. Provided, of course, that the relationships are based on love.
Unfortunately, many people follow the path of that rational choice, convincing themselves that this approach is correct. Are they happy in the end? The concept of “marry first and love will follow” as a way of building the relationships is wrong at the very beginning, one can not force the heart to accept the reasoning of mind – it lives by feelings – as you cannot force yourself to fall in love.
So often we try to follow other people’s examples that we forget to listen to ourselves. Most often our choice in love is dictated by public opinion, which we have accepted as our own. However, only we know what, or in this case, who is good for us and will double our joy. So don’t be afraid to listen to your soul; it is the only one that knows the way to your happiness.